Mistress Eva Lordes Adults Only 18+

By MIGUEL HELFT

SAN FRANCISCO — What if the Web held a sex party and no one showed up?

That’s what could happen now that the agency governing the Internet
address system all but approved the creation of a new red-light
district on the Web. The problem is that some of the biggest names in
online pornography prefer not to be in that neighborhood.

The Internet Corporation for Assigned Names and Numbers on Friday
agreed to move forward on a long-standing proposal from a Florida
company to create a specialized dot-xxx suffix for adult entertainment
Web sites. But the plan upset much of the adult entertainment
industry. It joined hands with religious groups in lobbying against
it, arguing that the new domains would lead to regulation and
marginalization.

The alliance “made for strange bedfellows, for sure,” said Diane Duke,
executive director of the Free Speech Coalition, a trade association
representing more than 1,000 adult entertainment businesses. The
company sponsoring the dot-xxx domain, the ICM Registry, said it had a
vision of a red-light district in cyberspace that was a clean, well-
lighted place, free of spam, viruses and credit card thieves. Content
would be clearly labeled as adult and the whole neighborhood would be
easy to block. Anyone offended by pornography could simply stay out.

“It is good for everybody,” said Stuart Lawley, the chairman and chief
executive of ICM. “It is a win for the consumer of adult content. They
will know that the dot-xxx sites will operate by certain standards.”

That did not satisfy religious groups that opposed the dot-xxx
domains, fearing they would make pornography even more prevalent
online. And Ms. Duke said that “there is no support from our
community” for the plan.

Her organization’s members, which include big industry names like
Hustler and Adam & Eve, were concerned that the board overseeing the
dot-xxx domain could engage in censorship and that the entire industry
could come under increased regulation. “If the board doesn’t like what
a producer creates, there is the possibility that they could censor
it,” Ms. Duke said. “This will ghettoize our industry and make us a
target of regulation.”

Ms. Duke said most of her members planned to continue operating out of
their dot-com domains.

But Mr. Lawley is not worried. Online sex is big business, and he
expects his company will benefit. Each domain registration will cost
$60 a year, with $10 going to a nonprofit organization promoting
“responsible business practices” for the industry.

Mr. Lawley said more than 100,000 domains had preregistered. He said
he expected that when the dot-xxx domains opened for business, nine to
12 months from now, some 500,000 domains would register, or roughly 10
percent of the five million to six million adult online sites.

But Ms. Duke said many of those were likely to be “defensive”
registrations, from businesses that wanted to prevent their names from
being hijacked. Mr. Lawley said businesses could ensure that their
names were not misused in the dot-xxx world by paying a one-time fee,
to be set from $50 to $250.

In giving ICM’s proposal the green light in a meeting in Brussels, the
Internet Corporation for Assigned Names and Numbers, which governs
Internet addresses, reversed a 2007 vote to reject the dot-xxx
domains, saying the decision was purely based on technical grounds.
Peter Dengate Thrush, the agency’s chairman, said it had no interest
or stake in the content of Web sites.

“The applicants believe that this will allow people to filter
pornography more effectively,” he said. “If they do that and it works,
that’s great for them. But that’s not part of our issue.”

The agency now has to negotiate a final contract with ICM. Ms. Duke’s
organization plans to continue its fight against the dot-xxx domains.

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After Cutting Little Girls’ Clitorises, Ivy League Doctor Tests
Handiwork With a Vibrator
By Daniela Perdomo, AlterNet
Posted on June 18, 2010, Printed on June 18, 2010
http://www.alternet.org/story/147254/

When most of us think of female genital mutilation, we probably think
of faraway places. Well, peel off those blinders. In 1997, our very
own Department of Health and Human Services estimated that 168,000
girls and women living in the United States had been or were at risk
of being subjected to some form of the abhorrent practice known as
female genital mutilation (FGM).

Not only is FGM being practiced relatively widely in the United
States, it’s happening in the most hallowed halls of American medical
science. In fact, the head of the pediatric urology department at
Cornell University’s New York Presbyterian Hospital — which is often
ranked among the top 10 hospitals in the country — has been operating
on young girls who suffer from what he (and likely the girls’
guardians) have decided is “clitorimegaly,” or oversized clitorises.

In order to relieve these girls from what seems like little more than
a cosmestic issue, Dr. Dix P. Poppas cuts out parts of the clitoris’
shaft, saving the glans, or tip, for reattachment. Poppas triumphantly
calls the procedure — rebranded a clitoroplasty — a “nerve sparing”
one unlike the FGMs practiced in other countries.

How does the good doctor know that nerves have been spared? Well,
Poppas and his nurse practitioner developed a series of sensory
followup tests involving Q-tips, their fingernails and vibrators. But
don’t worry, a family member was always present in the room. As the
resulting journal article notes, management of such situations
requires a “compassionate and multidisciplinary approach.”

Activists Alice Dreger and Ellen K. Feder, a professor of medical
humanities and bioethics and a professor of philosophy, respectively,
have been railing against the practice of FGM — of any kind — for a
decade. They are part of the majority medical view that questions the
very basis of clitoroplasties. (The American Academy of Pediatrics
disturbingly stated in May that it only had an issue with “all types
of female genital cutting that pose risks of physical or psychological
harm” — as if any kind of clitoral mutilation did not necessarily
entail such harm. The AAP recanted the shocking affront to women’s
physical and mental health only a few weeks later.)

“We still know of no evidence that a large clitoris increases
psychological risk (so is the surgery even necessary?), and we do know
of substantial anecdotal evidence that it does not increase risk.
Importantly, there also seems to be evidence that clitoroplasties
performed in infancy do increase risk – of harm to physical and sexual
functioning, as well as psychosocial harm,” Dreger and Feder wrote in
an article lambasting Poppas’ study.

These procedures seem motivated mostly by an obsession with having
“normal” genitalia — and normal kids. The fact that cosmetic genital
surgery is on the rise is one sign of this. And given that only one of
every 2,000 infants is born with genital ambiguity, parents faced with
an “abnormal” clitoris are not likely to have ever seen one before and
may react with trepidation. Will my kid be a lesbian? Will my little
girl want to become a boy? We know children are all unique, like
snowflakes, but when it comes to vaginas, sexual orientation and
gender identity, it seems we’d prefer cookie-cutter, please.

So parents go to Dr. Poppas who mirrors their fears and offers a
medical procedure that Cornell’s Web site recommends “because female
patients are able to undergo a more natural psychological and sexual
development.” What parent would withhold such treatment, recommended
by a top-notch pediatrician and hospital?

Poppas cuts off parts of the perfectly healthy, albeit-larger-than-
we’d-like clitoris, the only organ in either sex whose only known
function is sexual pleasure.

Although Poppas boasts of the “nerve sparing” nature of his procedure,
a study in the Lancet showed some women who underwent other nerve-
sparing surgeries “had the worst possible score for orgasm
difficulties.” Not to mention the fact that simply preserving the
glans may not be enough, given that many women find more pleasure is
derived from the shaft than the tip, which can be overly sensitive.

The horrors of clitoroplasties aside, Poppas’ particular brand of FGM
adds an extra layer of psychological damage. When Dreger told Ken
Zucker, a child psychologist about how Poppas used a vibrator to test
a little girl’s clitoral sensation, he said: “Applying a vibrator to a
six-year-old girl’s surgically feminized clitoris is developmentally
inappropriate.”

Dreger and Feder write:

[The study’s authors] describe the girls “sensory tested” as being
older than five. They are, therefore, old enough to remember being
asked to lie back, be touched with the vibrator, and report on whether
they can still feel sensation. They may also be able to remember their
emotions and the physical sensations they experienced. Their parents’
participation may also figure in these memories. We think therefore
that most reasonable people will agree with Zucker that Poppas’s
techniques are “developmentally inappropriate.”
Of course it’s inappropriate. And lest that is not obvious on its own,
transgendered adults have long been vocal about how genital displays
in medical exams were among the most traumatic experiences of their
entire lives.

In this case, as sex columnist Dan Savage writes, “These post-op
visits with the doctor and his vibrator do the girls no good — what
can the doctor do if a girl reports no sensation? reassemble her clit?
– and retaining sensation isn’t proof that these girls will grow up
to be healthy, sexually functional adults.”

The sad irony is that maintaining these girls as healthy, sexually
functional, happy adults is the cause of all these problems in the
first place. Parents and the doctors who legitimize their fears need
to know that reconstructing a clitoris — or any other ambiguous
genitalia — to meet “normal” standards does nothing to change what
may be behind the differences to begin with. You can’t “fix” your
kid’s genetic and hormonal makeup — you can only cover it up, and
such efforts can have tragic psychological and physiological results.

The least we can do is give every kid a chance to figure out who he or
she is and what he or she wants when he or she is old enough to do
make that call — and to accept them as they are throughout the entire
process.

Daniela Perdomo is a staff writer and editor at AlterNet. Follow
Daniela on Twitter. Write her at danielaalternet [at] gmail [dot] com.

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I’ve been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for 30 years. That’s some 30,000 sessions with men, women, and couples—a ringside seat at the human circus.

The guy was yet another supposed “sex addict.” I listened to his story carefully, and told him I sympathized with how he had damaged his life and hurt people with bad sexual decisions.

“But I don’t treat ‘sex addiction,’” I said. I think it’s a bogus concept.

“But you have to treat my sex addiction,” the guy pleaded.

Since the day I opened my practice, I’ve seen people going to massage parlors, strip clubs, and hookers. I’m always working with several men and women having affairs, or dealing with the aftermath of one. And every few months someone brings in their mate because their constant flirting is way, way over the top.

But until about three years ago no one ever came in claiming to be a sex addict, or saying that his partner told him he was one. The number of these people has grown tremendously. Not the number of people acting out sexually—just the number of people using the magic words “sex addict” or “sex addiction.”

The poor guy looked like a lot of Silicon Valley engineers: light blue button-down shirt, khaki pants, shoes that desperately needed a shine. He had started going to a massage parlor a few months after his baby was born. After about eight or nine desultory hand jobs in the course of a year, he’d confessed to his wife.

I told him I might work with him, but why did he need this specific approach?

“Because Maria said that either I’m a sex addict and I couldn’t help it and I need treatment, or I’m just a selfish bastard and she wants a divorce.”

He wanted to keep his marriage and kid. To do so, he had to admit he had a disease and get it treated. He was desperate. He would do anything. I told him I might be able to help him deal with the power struggle in his marriage, and help him stop avoiding conflict (his wife happily abandoned him when she had the much-wanted baby, then unilaterally invited her mother to move in with them for a year—and he couldn’t confront her because “I love her so much”). I said I could probably help him feel better about himself, and help him feel less guilty about masturbating.

But I couldn’t treat his sex addiction because I didn’t believe he had such an ailment. In tears, he left. The town’s best-known sex therapist had failed him.

I saw a guy last fall in an even more extreme situation. His wife had caught him seeing out-of-town prostitutes. Not only did she decide he was a sex addict (and porn addict), she demanded he begin treatment at an in-patient facility. He asked what I thought of that.

“Is your wife a psychologist or an addictionologist?”

“No.”

“Well, I don’t find ‘sex addiction’ a clinically meaningful or useful term,” I said. “But if I did—if I were a professional who claims to be a serious sex addiction specialist—I would probably say you had some symptoms of this disorder. I would then give you some tests, interview you, and evaluate you. Then I’d prescribe a treatment program, which might include attending 12-step meetings, reading books, being in a group, or even going into a hospital.”

“But since your wife isn’t a psychologist or an addiction specialist,” I continued, “I wonder why she feels qualified to not only diagnose you, but to prescribe an extremely complex treatment program.”

He hadn’t looked at it that way. He asked what I would suggest.

I don’t treat sex addiction. The concept is superficial. It isn’t clearly defined or clinically validated, and it’s completely pathology-oriented. It presents no healthy model of non-monogamy, pornography use, or stuff like S/M. Some programs eliminate masturbation, which is inhumane, naïve, and crazy.

Oh, I observe people with obsessive-compulsive disorder, bipolar disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, and a few other exotic states. That accounts for some of what laypeople call “sex addiction.”

What I mostly see instead of “sex addicts” is people who are neurotic or narcissistic. They can’t quite believe that the normal rules of life (“tell the truth,” “all behavior has consequences”) apply to them. They make promises they intend to keep—but then they want relief from frustration, or loneliness, or anxiety so much, they are unwilling to keep their promises, even promises to themselves. And some “sex addicts” just can’t come to terms with having one, relatively brief, life. They want several lives, so they can have everything.

“So tell your wife the truth,” I said. “Tell her you’re concerned about your behavior just like she is. Tell her you want to change it just like she wants. Tell her you’re concerned about your ability to do that just like she is. And tell her that you understand she’s in a lot of pain, that you caused it, and that you feel great regret.”

While all that consensus should provide her some relief, and maybe even create some intimacy, it still doesn’t give her the credentials to diagnose and specify her husband’s treatment. Her pain is valid. Her proposed solution isn’t. She wants to regain a sense of control. Telling him what’s wrong with him and demanding a particular treatment isn’t.

“I think you’re the one to help me,” said the would-be patient. “But let me talk to my wife about your approach. If she agrees, I’ll call for another

Chris Duffey
“This case has stirred up a shit storm, and the Contra Costa District Attorney’s office is right in the middle of it,” said Gressett’s chief attorney Daniel Russo.

The rape allegations from within Contra Costa County’s District Attorney’s office were bound to make big headlines. Michael Gressett was a 51-year-old deputy district attorney who worked for the sexual assault unit. His alleged victim was a 29-year-old coworker who said Gressett violently assaulted her during a lunch break. The Martinez Police Department’s September 2008 press release was replete with lurid charges like “sodomy,” “forced oral copulation,” and “penetration with a foreign object.” The alleged props — including a gun, handcuffs, steak knife, ice cubes, and an ice pick — seemed plucked from the pages of a Marquis de Sade novel.

Not surprisingly, the story attracted wide attention. The San Francisco Chronicle assigned two reporters and the Contra Costa Times posted a complete copy of the criminal complaint on its web site. Television news joined the fray, and soon Gressett’s face was plastered all across the Bay Area. And no one followed the story more closely than the lawyers and politicians who work for Contra Costa County. So many people have viewed the case file that clerks in the courthouse keep it handy like it was a popular library book. When a reporter asked for the file by its case number, the clerk immediately said, “Oh, you want the Gressett file.”

The veteran prosecutor’s reputation as an office iconoclast only added to the case’s newsworthiness. Gressett has run for the position of Contra Costa County District Attorney three separate times, putting him in disfavor with the old-boy power structure that has controlled the office for decades. After the charges came to light, District Attorney Robert Kochly did what he could to distance his office from Gressett’s alleged behavior. “It’s a sad day for our office for anything like this to occur,” Kochly told the Chronicle. “Anything of this nature is devastating to the office. It’s antithetical to what we’re about.”

After his arrest, Gressett might have been expected to cease being a thorn in management’s side. Once he was released from jail on a $1 million bond, he was promptly fired. He now faces a possible life sentence for thirteen felony counts including rape, forced sodomy, forced oral copulation, and making death threats.

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June 4th, 2010 admin
Several weeks ago, I went out to dinner with a female friend. During
dinner I asked her if she had seen Brokeback Mountain yet. She said,
“No, I have no desire to see two men kissing all over each other.” I
asked her if she would be willing to do me a favor and see the movie
anyway. I told her I had a theory and I wanted to see if I was right
about something, so she agreed. We met for lunch after she went to see
the movie. I asked her what she thought – it turns out that she loved
it. I asked her if she was turned off or disgusted by any of the
sexual scenes; she said, “No, surprisingly enough, I wasn’t turned off
by them at all.” I decided to take it a step further. I asked her if
she was turned on by any of the scenes in the movie. Her face turned
red and she said, “I have no idea why, but yes, I was turned on by
them.” This isn’t the first time I’ve heard a woman say that after
having seen the movie. I think I know why women are finding the sexual
scenes in Brokeback Mountain so arousing, but before I explain, let me
digress just a little.

During an interview a radio talk show host brought up the fact that
females aren’t as visual as males. She said that was the reason there
aren’t nearly as many male strip clubs as there are female strip
clubs. As I discussed in Women’s Infidelity, the word “more” creates a
lot of confusion between the sexes. Whenever it has been determined
that one sex is “more” of anything, we fail to remember that the other
sex still has that trait, only to a lesser degree. For example, males
have more hair than females, but that doesn’t mean that females don’t
have hair. Males like more sexual variety than females, but that
doesn’t mean females don’t like sexual variety. Likewise, males may be
more visual than females, but that in no way means that females aren’t
visual. Having said that, I would like to address not only how women
feel about watching men have sex, but also how women feel about male
strip clubs as well as male prostitution.

Heterosexual females are attracted to masculinity. Women don’t get
turned on by watching men act like women. So, going to a strip club
and watching men dance around in what can best be described as bikini
panties is not a turn on for most females. If you want women to pay to
see men, then build a bar with a glass front on a construction site
and you’ll make a fortune. The female animal likes to watch physically
fit men work. If men want to get women’s attention, all they have to
do is take off their shirts and lift something heavy or pick up a
shovel and start digging a hole. Trust me, men would receive the same
kind of attention that they normally give to partially exposed, pushed-
up breasts.

This explains my friend’s arousal during the sexual scenes in
Brokeback Mountain – the sexual scenes were extremely masculine. The
men weren’t caressing and cuddling with each other; the love scenes
were very passionate and aggressive. Passion and aggression are what
arouse the female animal.

Now, on to the issue of male prostitution, someone just recently asked
me, “If women like sex as much as men, why aren’t there more male
prostitutes running around?” Well, I can think of several reasons.
First of all, until recently, women didn’t have any money, so
obviously paying for sex wasn’t an option. Likewise, females
experiencing pleasure from sex is also something that is relatively
new. Prior to 60-65 years ago sex was only thought of as pleasurable
for males; therefore was no information available about how to please
women sexually. Plus, when females did experience sexual pleasure they
were encouraged to hide their pleasure from their partners in order to
make the men feel more secure. However, those reasons aside, there’s
still the undeniable fact that a male has a hard time pleasing just
one female, while a female has the ability to please many males…
although now, Viagra may help to alleviate this problem. (For further
explanation see Women’s Infidelity, Chapter 6: Why Women Find Affair
Sex Particularly Appealing.)

The new sexual double standard

Robert Sullivan/AFP/Getty Images file

A new study suggests that men are increasingly being forced to follow
gender roles, while women are more free to be themselves.

Kathryn Blaze Carlson, National Post · Monday, Mar. 9, 2009

Women have long complained that men enjoy a double standard when it
comes to sexual behaviour, but a new Canadian study reveals a shift
which actually puts more sexual limitations on men, while lifting
those on women.

That men are traditionally high-fived for wantonness while women are
often pegged as sluttish has been an age-old watercooler discussion, a
point of contention among those seeking to level what they consider an
unfair playing field.

But the reality, according to the study, is that men are not totally
unconstrained. Instead, they are more limited by what is considered
taboo in the bedroom; hit by a new double standard that expects men to
be highly sexual, and yet expects them to be less experimental —
while the opposite is true for women.

The study, published in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, found
that society accords men less “sexual latitude” than women, deeming
it abnormal for a man to be disinterested in sex, to engage in
homosexual fantasy, and to engage in submissive sexual acts.

“The double standard used to give men more sexual freedom than women,
but these findings indicate that the dynamic is changing” said Alex
McKay, research coordinator for the Sex Information and Education
Council of Canada. “Men are forced to abide by a certain gender role,
while women are today more free to be themselves. In this sense, the
standard actually works against the man.”

Canadian university students sampled for the study received a list of
33 sexual behaviours — watching pornography, masturbation, being
physically restrained during sex, voyeurism, and a catalogue of more
outside of the mainstream behaviours — and were asked to rate the act
on a scale from normal to abnormal. Half the participants’ surveys
referred to men — a man watching pornography, a man masturbating, a
man being restrained during sex — while the others received surveys
involving women.

Although the study sample was small — 104 male and female
undergraduate psychology students participated in the study — the
findings speak to what Mr. McKay and Ms. McGarvie said is a trend
toward a more modern discussion on gender and sexuality.

The researchers say the findings “underscore the conflictive nature
of the sexual double standard when applied to men … It demands that
they evidence greater interest in sexual matters, yet also requires
that this interest be channelled into modes of expression that are
‘socially appropriate.’”

One reason for why a greater number of “non-normative” behaviours
are considered acceptable for women is that women are allowed to take
on both dominant and subordinate sexual roles; men are not given that
same exploratory space.

“Men have a clear idea of what’s acceptable,” said Sue McGarvie,
sex therapist and radio personality. “They’re more concerned about
maintaining their macho persona. It’s as if they think they need to
have sex standing up with their boots on in order to show their
manliness.”

The study, by Todd Morrison, a psychology professor at the University
of Saskatchewan, calls for a deeper look into the impact of these new
dynamics on men.

“Greater research attention should be given to the burden that some
men may experience as a function of exposure to a sexual double
standard that demands they evidence an interest in sexuality and
should lead and control sexual interactions,” the study said.

That a greater number of sexual behaviours are considered normal, and
desirable, for women exemplifies the trend that more once-taboo sexual
behaviours are making their way out of what the study refers to as the
“outer limits” and into what it calls the “charmed category.”

For example, society now appears to accept the idea that married men
and women masturbate, something that just over a decade ago was a
“major area of contest,” the study said.

But, while the study in a sense debunks the notion that men have the
upper hand in the sexual arena, so too does it reveal that certain
aspects of the traditional double standard are still at play.

When it comes to the traditional notion that it is more acceptable for
men to watch pornography or be sexually active, for example, the study
shows that women deem men’s sexual prowess as more acceptable than
their own, embracing their role as the gender of lesser promiscuity.

“Women, in certain ways, were shown to accept the longstanding double
standard,” said Mr. McKay.

This is frustrating to Ms. McGarvie, who said sexual decisions are
personal and should be free from judgment based on gender, adding that
women should not be looked down on for appeasing their sexual needs.

“I keep hoping this part will change,” said Ms. McGarvie.

“It’s as if women are supposed to be a virgin in the bedroom, but
if our boyfriend wants us to hang from the chandeliers in the bedroom,
then that’s what we should do.”